Cravings: Chipotle. Big, vinegar-y salad. A wrap. Hot chocolate.
Aversions: Anything I have at home, pretty much. It’s really getting old. Everything sounds “meh” to me, and I can’t ever seem to decide what I want to eat.
Sleep: Depends on the day. Weaning is.. going. Sunday night Ryan slept until 7 am (with 2 wake ups, though pretty short ones) and it was pretty much magic.
Anything Else? We find out the gender TOMORROW. Tomorrow, you guys. It’s been weird going so long this time without knowing – with Ryan we got an elective at 15 weeks. I am very interested to see if doing so makes the pregnancy feel shorter. I remember that when I told everyone I was pregnant ASAP and then found out the gender early, the second half felt super long without any fun surprises.
(top is 20 weeks, bottom is the day I found out I was pregnant, same shirt. uhhh….)
I really want to touch on something quickly before I head off. I was going to make this a Thinking Out Loud post but then time got away from me and I didn’t really want to write/post it after we found out the gender (though I’m not going to share it here for a bit until I let everyone in my family etc know :)) because it may not seem genuine depending on the outcome.
I just really want to say, for all of you moms and moms to be out there – it’s okay if you’re hoping for a girl. Or a boy.
When I was pregnant with Ryan, I liked to peruse pregnancy message boards, and if you’ve ever been on one, you know just how brutal those women can be with one another. At least once a week someone would do a post entitled. “Hoping for a Boy!!” and get the crap beat out of them (virtually, obviously) by other moms who felt the need to guilt them.
They remind the woman that she should be happy to have a baby at all – not everyone is as lucky. That she selfish for wishing for one over the other. Even that she doesn’t deserve a child at all, and that they feel badly for the child they will raise. Uhm. What?
Just because a woman envisions one sex over the other doesn’t mean that they don’t love, appreciate and deserve that child. I’m hoping for a girl – my gut says girl. I have a beautiful, wonderful little boy, and would love to give him a little sister. I would love to watch a little girl grow up, to answer her questions only a mother can answer, and to one day watch her become a mother. That doesn’t mean I wouldn’t love another boy. I think brothers sounds so fun (and challenging!) and I’m well aware that girls bring on the hormones in the teen years. I’m not ungrateful for whatever sex baby is growing in me. I’m just hoping for one over the other.
So yes, while we all just want happy, healthy babies, it’s okay to daydream about dressing a little girl up in headbands and tutus or watching a little boy play catch with his daddy. It doesn’t make you a bad mother because you admit it. It doesn’t make you ungrateful for your pregnancy or the life that you’ve been blessed with. And anyone who even slightly disagrees or tries to make you feel bad about it doesn’t deserve an input in your life, your pregnancy, or the life of your baby.
You find out the gender tomorrow?! Oh my gosh, how exciting!!!
And BTW… I love your PJ pants from the last post!
Yay! I can’t wait to know what you are having this time around! Is the feeling of this pregnancy different enough for you to think that it might be a girl? Healthy is all that matters in the end 🙂
Alexandra @ My Urban Family says
I totally agree with you about being able to want a girl or boy but still have a heart full of love for both! Some people take things a little too seriously. And I’m excited to hear what you find out in the future!
Such a good point, Morgan! Of course everyone wants a healthy baby, but it’s only natural to have gender preferences. Thanks for being so honest with us!
Tami @ Have My Cake says
I love that you touched on this! It’s so real.
I’ll be thinking of you! Good luck tomorrow!!!
LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! I mean, I am so excited for you to find out tomorrow (and I am totally rooting for a girl, BTW!), but I love what you wrote in the last paragraph.
When I was pregnant with Matilda, I wanted a boy. It sounds weird, but I was a little afraid to have a little girl. I was afraid that I would screw her up with all my insecurities and fears. I (for some unknown reason) thought a boy might be easier in that respect.
Now that we have Matilda, I would love another baby, but I would secretly hope for another girl. It sounds crazy again (I see a pattern here…), but I already know what to expect from a girl. Boys are unknown territory to me!
Thoughts and prayers with you tomorrow and yay for whatever that little babe is inside of you…but hopefully a girl!
I totally agree! I actually wanted a boy and I was a little sad at first when we found out we were having a girl, but now I’m sooo glad we had a girl and I wouldn’t change it for anything!!
Amy @ Elephant Eats says
Wow, halfway already?! Crazy how fast it goes 🙂 Thos cravings all sound pretty good to me too, haha. Yay for finding out the gender…can’t wait to hear!!! Looking great, mama 😉
Sarah @ Seriously Lovely says
I totally agree with this and I’m so glad you put it into words so well. It’s almost impossible not to start leaning toward a girl or boy while you wait for that gender ultrasound, but it doesn’t mean you won’t wholeheartedly love the baby regardless of which gender it turns out to be. On the flip side of this, my husband and I really tried to stay open-minded about this while we waited to find out…but now that we’re having a boy we’ve had some negative comments about it from family members and while I try not to take it personally, I have to say it still hurts. I want everyone to love our little guy as much as we do and not be wishing he was a girl!
Can’t wait to hear what you’re having!!
Julie @ Running in a Skirt says
Women can be so mean– those board are brutal! You are looking great and I’m so happy for you. Checking back to see if you found out!