Sometimes we find ourselves losing patience with kids, no matter how hard we try. Here are 4 tips to keep your cool when losing patience as a mom. Some days it may seem like an impossible task, but by taking simple steps and having a bit of a mindset shift, you’ll be able to control your patience and confidently move on.[Read more…]
Having a sick baby is never fun. Trying to figure out how to get your sick baby to sleep, feel more comfortable, and ultimately feel better can be hard. These tips will help! Not only will I show you how to make your baby feel better, but also how to handle jealousy from older siblings who might not be old enough to understand.[Read more…]
When I first got pregnant with Ryan, I felt heavy with the knowledge that my friends – fresh out of college and starting exciting careers, enjoying the dating scene, and generally enjoying being young – would have a hard time identifying with my from then on out. As someone who has a hard time making friends, this honestly seemed crippling. Just the thought of having to go into the world and make even one new friend who understood me and what I was going through on top of learning how to be a mom and handle a newborn? It kind of sounded like the worse case scenario.
Thankfully, I eventually found my group of people that I could chat with about being a mom – and some of those people are YOU awesome people who come here and chat with me 😉
Now, I’m not sitting here saying I have a million and seven mom friends. If I did the whole MOPS or joined a baby gym or mommy and me classes or something similar, I’m sure I would have a few more, but the reality is that, besides the handful of awesome ladies that I can reach out to and chat with, I have one really good mom friend – my mom BFF – who I rely on for my parenting companionship.
And I really, really, really need her in my life to keep me sane.
Because here’s the truth: your partner is amazing. I won’t take that away from them. But sometimes you need another mom in your life for something – things only another mom will understand. A mom who doesn’t have to sleep next to you at night and who you can complain to when needed. If you’re sitting there thinking that you’re doing just fine without a mom BFF, I’m coming at you with reasons you absolutely, irrevocably need a mom BFF in your life – like, yesterday.
PS – make sure you stay through to the bottom of this post where I’m giving you a free cheat sheet of do’s and don’t for meeting new moms and conversation starters to take the stress out of making a new friend!
Being a mom can be scary – here are some of the more unconventional mom fears.
As a new mom, I realized that there was so much to be scared of. Actually, the fear began when I was pregnant. First, make it to 12 weeks where the chances of a miscarriage drop dramatically. Then stress about hitting that golden 26 weeks, where the babies chance of survival should he or she come early skyrockets. Then worry about movement – is it enough? Too little or too much? Pray you get to full term, then when will the babe will be finally coming out, and then worry about your delivery. You’d think that that was it, but no, then you have to worry about SIDS and whooping cough and an unbelievable array of other terrifying potential deaths that are clearly hiding behind every corner. Never Google anything related to your child – good or bad. If you do, you’ll soon be in a ball in the corner, rocking with your incredibly vulnerable new baby in your arms, muttering to yourself.
Negative self talk is a constant in today’s society. But with little eyes constantly watching us, we need to keep in mind the potential negative effects.
I vividly remember being maybe 6 or 7 and asking my mom if I looked fat. I was modeling the way she looks in the mirror herself before she would ask my dad the same question – front, side, side, shirt up, repeat. My mom was on the phone and told me to stop, then said to whoever was on the phone, “Oh, Morgan’s just learning about vanity.” My first act in vanity, in wondering about how I looked, about how my body was or how I was presenting myself to other was to ask if I looked fat.
We live in a world where, as women, we’re bombarded with media that is constantly telling us to lose 5 more pounds, slim this, tighten that. We’re presented with unrealistic images of “perfect” bodies over and over and expected to emulate them. No wonder we’re a bunch of self-conscious and vain people. It’s who we’ve been molded to be.