When I first got pregnant with Ryan, I felt heavy with the knowledge that my friends – fresh out of college and starting exciting careers, enjoying the dating scene, and generally enjoying being young – would have a hard time identifying with my from then on out. As someone who has a hard time making friends, this honestly seemed crippling. Just the thought of having to go into the world and make even one new friend who understood me and what I was going through on top of learning how to be a mom and handle a newborn? It kind of sounded like the worse case scenario.
Thankfully, I eventually found my group of people that I could chat with about being a mom – and some of those people are YOU awesome people who come here and chat with me 😉
Now, I’m not sitting here saying I have a million and seven mom friends. If I did the whole MOPS or joined a baby gym or mommy and me classes or something similar, I’m sure I would have a few more, but the reality is that, besides the handful of awesome ladies that I can reach out to and chat with, I have one really good mom friend – my mom BFF – who I rely on for my parenting companionship.
And I really, really, really need her in my life to keep me sane.
Because here’s the truth: your partner is amazing. I won’t take that away from them. But sometimes you need another mom in your life for something – things only another mom will understand. A mom who doesn’t have to sleep next to you at night and who you can complain to when needed. If you’re sitting there thinking that you’re doing just fine without a mom BFF, I’m coming at you with reasons you absolutely, irrevocably need a mom BFF in your life – like, yesterday.
PS – make sure you stay through to the bottom of this post where I’m giving you a free cheat sheet of do’s and don’t for meeting new moms and conversation starters to take the stress out of making a new friend!