Being a mom can be scary – here are some of the more unconventional mom fears.
As a new mom, I realized that there was so much to be scared of. Actually, the fear began when I was pregnant. First, make it to 12 weeks where the chances of a miscarriage drop dramatically. Then stress about hitting that golden 26 weeks, where the babies chance of survival should he or she come early skyrockets. Then worry about movement – is it enough? Too little or too much? Pray you get to full term, then when will the babe will be finally coming out, and then worry about your delivery. You’d think that that was it, but no, then you have to worry about SIDS and whooping cough and an unbelievable array of other terrifying potential deaths that are clearly hiding behind every corner. Never Google anything related to your child – good or bad. If you do, you’ll soon be in a ball in the corner, rocking with your incredibly vulnerable new baby in your arms, muttering to yourself.
Once you get out of those first few weeks or months, it doesn’t necessarily lessen, but you learn to manage it. The fears are ever changing, from illness to development to interaction. But there are some things that all moms fear – things that, when you see or hear them, they will bring your stomach to your feet. These fears, my friends, are the ones to really watch out for because they’re the ones that you don’t really expect to fear, the ones that don’t show up in your Google search results. And they’re the ones that really mess with your head.
Unconventional Things a Mom Fears
–Silence. Now that my son is mobile, (and a total terror, if we’re being honest) I’ve learned that when he’s in the living room and I’m doing something in another room, noise is my friend. Noise is safe. Noise means he’s playing or reading to himself. Silence means he’s being sneaky. He’s climbing on something, he’s tormenting an animal, he’s elbow deep into his diaper.. trouble.
–The lights of the baby monitor. I call these the ‘lights of death’. In fact, once my son turned one or so I had to get rid of the monitor at night because I started to imagine them lighting up and it would keep me up for hours. No lie. Every parent knows that gut sinking feeling when you see the monitor flicker from the one stationary light to two, three, then four lights. Nap time is over, there’s about to be a midnight wake up, or it’s time to roll your tired ass out of bed.
–A giggle at 2 am. Maybe it’s just my kid, but if my son giggles (or, more likely, goes, “bop!”) anytime past 2 am, he’s not going back to sleep. And if he does, it won’t be for at least 2 hours. Also see: when he starts lightly hitting my arm while I try to rock him back to sleep or pulls his head back to look at me in the pitch dark. All are bad, bad signs.
–The pre-whine. There is a very specific noise that comes right before a huge breakdown. It’s usually how I can tell if it’s going to be a big deal or if I can just throw a, “Stop, you’re being silly, the world is not ending,” his way and get back to doing dishes. This noise usually precludes floor stomping, laying down on the ground wailing, and leg clinging. You have been warned.
–The nosy advice giver. I can now spot this culprit from a mile away. They try to make eye contact first, but even if you don’t give in, they’re on their way over to tell you about XYZ. Maybe your kid isn’t wearing both socks or is having a slight meltdown in the middle of Target. Advice will be given. Maybe your baby looks too young to be out and about just yet, or they’ve decided the baby is hungry, or tired, or needs to be held this way or that. Whatever the case, once you develop the trained eye to identify this threat, run. Run fast. Or else you’ll be stuck for an hour listening to all of the ways you’re parenting wrong and how you can fix it.
–An empty snack cup. The snack cup is a beautiful, wonderful thing. I can fill it up with raisins and orange chunks, maybe rice or crackers, and send the little dude on his way while I get 5 minutes of something done. Those 5 minutes are precious. As much as I wish I could continually fill said cup up to buy myself an unknown amount of time, the mental image of rolling my toddler down the hallway Veruca Salt-style is not ideal. When I peer into the living room and see that there are only 3 or 4 more raisins left, my whole body seizes up, knowing the begging and pleading that is coming.
This is not the full list of unconventional things that will scare a mom. Oh, no. Any of these, and many, many, many more will strike the fear of God into any parent. But such is life when you have littles, no? Constant fear, terror, and sloppy kisses.
So moms- did any of these mom fears strike a chord with you? Any other mom fears that came after kids that you would never have guessed? Let me know in the comments!
If you liked this post, you may also enjoy these!