This post is sponsored by Carter’s; however, all thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.
When I was pregnant with Ryan, I was a freshly graduated 22-year-old newlywed. I got my fair share of side eyes. After my fingers got too fat to wear my size 4.5 wedding rings, I got even more looks. It made me feel uncomfortable, but the looks I could handle. The part that really bugged me was the advice.
Oh, my, the advice.
Something happens when you become pregnant. For some unknown reason, people decide that filters aren’t needed. Advice on how you should raise your kids? The elderly woman in aisle 7 has your back. Comments on how you’re carrying your baby or how big your bump is? Compliments of the stranger in an elevator. Opinions on your age, social status, how many kids you should have or if you should induce or not? That coworker you’ve never exchanged more than a friendly ‘hello’ will fill you in.
But with all that in mind, the number one thing I heard was, “You life will never be the same!” or, “Enjoy life while you can!” I was told I wouldn’t be sleeping for 18 years. That the worry would be suffocating. That my new marriage would suffer – my poor husband, he didn’t even get me to himself for long! I was told that my young body would age well before my peers. For the next 18 years, I would have a little ball and chain, keeping me from living life. Bye bye vacations, bye bye nice things, bye bye freedom.
Now, I’m a ‘take it with a grain of salt’ kinda girl, but the non-stop conversation about how my life would never be the same was daunting and exhausting. It’s hard not to buy into it when it’s all you hear. And you know what? 3 years and 2 boys later, I have to agree – my life will never be the same as it was before Ryan (and later Owen) came into our lives. But not for the reasons you might think.
Life will never be the same because I’ll see random items differently. That completely practical pot you got as a wedding gift is now your go-to distraction when you need a few minutes of peace. Those adorable little baby clothes bundle sets you put on your baby shower registry because they were cute become your go-to basics – ain’t nobody got time to plan out cute outfits when you’re that tired. Pre-matched outfits you’ll learn to put on in the dark with one arm behind your back? Please and thank you.
Life will never be the same because I can never sit still. Two mobile boys will encourage you to get off your behind more than anything you’ve ever experienced. I never sit still because I’m constantly chasing these boys who explore and learn about the world every waking minute – and it’s in a good way. I’ve learned more about the world by exploring next to them than I did in the 22 years before kids.
Life will never be the same because the mundane becomes awe-inspiring. Tiny toes seem like a miracle. Little diaper covered baby tushies might be the cutest thing I’ve ever seen. (especially when adorned with the world’s cutest pants from the Carter’s Little Baby Basics collection – I never thought shopping for baby boy clothes would be fun, but oh my goodness, the variety always shocks me!) A simple giggle can make your heart explode.
Life will never be the same because I will never respond to a text on time. There’s a 50/50 shot on what happened to your text response – either my toddler got my phone first and opened it, marking the message as read before I was even aware of its existence or I saw it, got distracted by one of my kids doing something stupid and life threatening, and then never remembered it again.
Life will never be the same because I no longer pity the stressed out mom at the grocery store. Probably because I usually am that stressed out mom at the grocery store. And when I’m not – solidarity, sister.
Life will never be the same because I can’t wait movies or television with a straight face anymore. Every show and movie has me questioning where the leads’ parents are or speculating about how on EARTH the brand new mom looks that good. But I can sing the Paw Patrol on point and the smile it brings to Ryan’s face is worth 400 question free RomComs.
In the three short years since I’ve become a mom, I’ve learned that life is ever-changing and unpredictable. It’s probably why a solid 80% of my boys’ wardrobe has been from Carter’s – Carter’s knows life is unpredictable. In fact, that’s why Carter’s created the Little Baby Basics collection, to help with every change along the way. Because let’s be honest – there will be a lot of changes in your life (and I’m not just talking diaper changes, people.)
I’ve tried enough different baby clothes brands to be able to confidently say that Carter’s is the most durable brand for the best price – so many of the basics I bought when Ry was a baby have been used by Owen and I am still able to box ’em up for any future babes we might have. Considering both of my boys play hard and have crawled through more footies and pant knees than I could count, that’s impressive. Not to mention, I find that they’re the easiest to get on and off my squirmy dudes. Those expandable shoulders are perfect for getting bodysuits off post poo-splosion without going over the head. You’re welcome.
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Life will never be the same – that’s true. But one day I’ll sleep again – and if it means I get to stare at little baby toes all night, then I’m okay with that. I’ll always have a pit of worry in my chest watching my boys climb and crawl on everything, but if that means I get to feel the way I do when Owen smiles because he did it by himself every day, then I’ll take it. No, we didn’t have an extended newlywed period in our marriage, but instead, I get to watch Alex become a dad and learn and struggle alongside me – and that’s worth more than weekend trips and string-free date nights.
Okay, so tell me – best advice you received while preggo? Worst? What’s the best thing that changed post kiddos? Let me know in the comments!
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