UPDATED: Hi friends! It’s 12/28 and I’m updating this post with how my 2016 goals went!
With each New Year comes 365 opportunities to break all of those pretty resolutions we make, right? Here’s the thing – I think resolutions are nice and all but I also think that they put too much pressure on everything and create weird social rules that we’re all expected to follow. I mean, go to the grocery store on January 2 and buy a pound of bacon and see what kind of looks you get.
And I mean, why are resolutions always weight related? (Says the girl who made a ‘resolution’ 4 years ago to lose weight/get healthy and completely changed her life. But that’s another story for another day.) As I mention on Thursday, as a pregnant woman, there is no way I’m setting a resolution to lose weight. (And for the few of you who are like, oh, well, she could resolve to lose the baby weight after the baby, two words: suck it. Sorry. I miss bread already.) So instead, this year I’m setting goals. Some of them are trackable and attainable, and others are mostly subjective.
I hope that in a time of my life where everything will be getting a little messy (hi unnamed baby number two!), these goals will help me keep my eye on the prize and sort out what is important and what to strive for through the chaos. My goals are not listed in any kind of order of importance, just how they came to me as they came to me. I hope to come back to this list every 3 months to update you all on my progress/share what is or isn’t working. But regardless, let’s get to it!
Give birth to another healthy baby boy. Obviously, this is my biggest and most important goal. Bringing another healthy baby into the world is the most important thing to my family and me right now. Everything else on this list can go to the wayside, so long as we accomplish this.
UPDATE: Success! Read Owen’s birth story here!
Figure out how to be a family of 4/parent 2 kids. I’ll probably touch on this later, but one of my biggest fears is coming up short in the mom department for Ryan once this baby is born. Ryan will always be my baby, my little boy, my first born. I never, ever, ever want him to feel like he’s second rate or being pushed aside for his little brother. It’s going to take
a little a lot of learning and trial and error from all of us, but eventually, I’m confident we’ll ace the “family of four” thing!
UPDATE: Success! I mean, we’re in one piece. There were some rough patches, and there will be more, but being a family of 4 is amazing. Read about how I survived 2 under 2 here!
Allow for ‘down time’. Please tell me that I’m not the only one who sees 10 minutes of free time and looks at their to-do list for something small to knock off? Yes, it’s satisfying, but those 10 minutes spent doodling, reading (a book! Not blogs, sorry everyone), whatever makes you happy would probably benefit you more mentally than anything crossed off your list. I sometimes feel guilty spending spare time doing something unproductive, but I have to remember that sometimes me time is important too!
UPDATE: Ehh. I’m gonna say a big nooooooppppeee here. Something to work on in 2017, for sure.
A photo a day. I’m not sure where I first saw this a few months back, but once I did I immediately did I threw it onto my 2016 goals list. I plan on take a photo of one or both of the boys each day and posting it to Instagram. Follow along here! I know I probably take way more than that regardless, but there are definitely days that I forget, and from what I understand the whole “non-stop taking pictures of your kids” thing slows when you have more than one, which makes me sad.
UPDATE: Yes and no. I definitely took a picture each day, though not necessarily of the kids. I wasn’t the greatest at posting daily, but recently I’ve fallen in love with Instagram and other than when I was super sick, I post every day.
Make (and share!) a cleaning/organizing schedule. One of the keys to having a small home with kid(s?) and dog and husband (ha) is to keep it clean. Because it’s small, messes look about 100x worse and there’s really no where to hide them. I have a (decent) routine now I guess, but I’d like to make a concrete daily/weekly/monthly schedule for what needs to be done to keep our house in one piece to make cleaning less of a stress when the baby comes.
UPDATE: Success! Check out my post on how to make one here!
Floss 5 times a week. Look, ideally, I would floss err’ single day. But while I always start out pretty valiantly with my efforts to floss everyday, (twice a day! Why not?!) I always peter out. Usually on the weekends since I end up falling asleep on the couch since Alex stays up late to keep his weekly schedule consistent. Anyway, my goal is to floss each night Monday through Friday, and give myself a break on the weekends. If I have the energy, then awesome, but no harm no foul if I don’t.
Teach Ryan how to drive. Oops, how did that get in there? Not a chance, Ry.
Find an organization/planner system that works for me. I love planners, but I have a hard time finding a system that works for me/doesn’t stress me out or put too much pressure on me. Pretty self-explanatory. Find something that works. (I’m really digging the idea/look of bullet journals – does anyone have any experience with them?)
Look into freelancing a bit more. Writing has always been a love of mine (obvi, since I write here 5 times a week with joy!) and I majored in journalism, so I would really like to look into finding some freelance opportunities to bring in some money to help cover some of my student loan payments. Any tips or resources?
Figure out my eczema. I’ve struggled with eczema my whole life. I have memories of my parents coating me in Crisco and wrapping me in plastic wrap at night to keep me from itching. (I also remember unpeeling it and itching, then replacing it. So stealthy.) My eczema always seems to get worse when I’m pregnant, and this time it’s been pretty horrendous. After some research, I’m going to try to see if my diet is to blame and will be cutting out gluten first. Keep your eyes peeled for a series of posts about it! But regardless, I want to figure out the cause of this and cure it once and for all.
UPDATE: Ugh, nope. BUT I do finally have an appointment with a dermatologist. I found out some things that make it worse, but avoiding all sugar and carbs is obviously not reasonably. Time to talk to a professional!
Reduce the chemicals and medicines in our house, AKA get more crunchy. I love my natural tray cleaner, but for some reason I always find myself only using it for that. (also, it often clogs my spray bottle? Any suggestions?) Since I’ve been pregnant I’ve been relying on natural remedies for colds and what not, and I’d like to continue down that path and research what I can do to reduce the amount of man made products and chemicals in our home.
UPDATE: Ehh. While I definitely didn’t move 100% to handmade cleaners etc, I did begin chooing more natural, non-toxic ones.
Go somewhere. Hopefully, we’ll go on vacation this year. We’ve flirted with the idea a few times since Ryan was born, but haven’t committed. But this year we’re probably (hopefully!!!) going to go camping in the fall with the boys and maybe some family (the family campground we would be going to, both my dad and Alex went to on family vacations as kids, so that’s cool.)
UPDATE: Success! Read about out trip to Austin here!
A whole slew of blog goals. I feel like the past two or three weeks I’ve been nesting, but with the blog, if that makes any sense. It could just be those New Year vibes getting to me, but regardless, I have lists upon lists in my notebook of things I need to work on, things to update, mini goals, and posts to write. All of this is very exciting to me. I may or may not (okay, I probably will.) make a separate post on all of these, but either way I have some big plans for 2016!
I’m sure if I sat here I would think of about a billion other goals to work on for 2016, but I like my list where it is. Over the past few weeks I’ve added to and subtracted from it to make sure they were all things I really wanted or needed to be doing in my life, and I’m happy with what I came up with. Hopefully I’ll have some good news for you all come early April (also, a baby!) when I check back in on these goals.
So tell me, friends, what are your goals or resolutions this year? Do you have any? Do you like resolutions or New Year’s goals? Ever made a resolution that worked? Let me know in the comments!
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